Doing My Wife!

I realized after my last post I used some terms which may not be familiar to a lot of people. So I compiled a list of commonly used words in the kink community.

BDSM – Umbrella term for activities of B&D, D&S, S&M
B&D – Bondage and Discipline. A subgroup within D&S which is largely involved in making the submissive physically helpless and applying stimuli which outside of a scene would be painful. See Bondage. See Discipline.
Blood sports – A group of techniques in which the submissive’s skin is broken and blood is allowed to escape. Since the advent of AIDS and the spread of hepatitis, interest in blood sports has declined and those who practice it have developed techniques to protect themselves. The most common blood sport is cutting. See Cutting.
Bondage -A group of techniques for rendering a submissive physically helpless. These include rope ties, handcuffs and manacles, wrapping and mummification. See B&D. See Mummification. See Decorative binding. See Immobilization.
Bottom – A submissive.
CBT – Cock and ball torture.
Cutting – A technique in which cuts are carefully made in the submissive’s skin to produce an aesthetically pleasing pattern and stimulation to the submissive. The cuts are sometimes made into permanent markings by placing sterile foreign substances in them before they heal. See Blood sports.
Decorative binding – Using rope or cord to compress or tie a portion of the body where struggle will not cause it to tighten or cut into the submissive. See Immobilization.
Discipline – The application of stimuli which, outside of a scene, would be considered painful. Common discipline techniques are whipping, spanking and strapping. See B&D.
Dominant – An individual who accepts the submissive’s power and uses it for their mutual pleasure. See Sadist.
Edgeplay – These are particularly dangerous D&S that are looked upon with some trepidation. Because there is no formal ‘ruling body’ in D&S, what is called edgeplay is up to the individual. Therefore, something that to one person might be considered edgeplay might not be edgeplay to another.
Edgeplayer -A person takes part in edgeplay. Example: “The guy is a real edgeplayer; he’s into heavy bloodsports and asphyxia.”
Go word – A signal by the submissive that everything is all right and you can continue with or increase the present level of stimulation. See Stop word See Slow word.
Golden Showers – A humiliation technique where the dominant urinates on the submissive. Consumption of the urine may be part of this scene.
Immobilization – Using rope or other bondage tools to render a submissive relatively helpless despite his or her struggles. See Decorative binding.
Masochism – The ability to derive pleasure from pain. Derives from the writings of Leopold von SacherMasoch. See S&M.
Panic snap – A linking device used with cable and chain that allows two lengths to be disconnected even when there is tension in the system. A safety device.
S&M – Sadism and Masochism; A term often used to describe the D&S scene; however, it is falling into disrepute because it is both inaccurate (Dominants are not sadists.) and overly limited (All submissives are not masochists.). See Sadism. See Masochism.
Sadist – An individual who enjoys causing pain in a nonconsensual manner or regardless of the presence of absence of consent. Derives from the writings of the Marquis de Sade. See S&M.
Safe word -A word or phrase which permits the submissive to withdraw consent and terminate the scene at any point without endangering the illusion that the dominant is in complete control. See Slow word. See Go word.
Scat – A slang term for scatophilia, taking pleasure in playing with and sometimes eating feces. While this is occasionally used as a means of humiliation, it presents a relatively severe health risk, not limited to AIDS and hepatitis.
Slow word – A signal by the submissive that things are getting too intense and you should change or decrease the stimulation. See Safe word. See Go word.
SAM – Smart Arsed Masochist. A pseudo submissive who attempts to control everything the dominant does. A term of contempt. Example: “She’s cute and willing, but she’s a real SAM; you will spend most of your time trying to keep her from telling you which whip to use and how to swing it.” See ‘Topping From the Bottom.’
Scene (The) – The gamut of D&S activities and people considered as a whole. Example: “The scene contains some of the nicest people I have ever met.”
Scene (A) – An individual session of whatever duration where the participants are in their D&S roles. Example: “It was a tremendously hot scene last night when Master Jim waxed Lisa at The Vault.”
Slave – Often used interchangeably with submissive. However, generally reflecting a more intense level of submission or non-sexual or sexual-plus submission. For example, a slave might be someone who remains in a 24-hour-per-day submission and cooks, cleans and, otherwise, takes care of a dominant’s house. See submissive Strapple – An elongated paddle with a bit more flex so that is something intermediate between a strap and a paddle.
Submissive – An individual who gives up power in a D&S relationship for the mutual pleasure of those involved.
Suspension – A set of techniques for suspending a submissive using ropes, webbing or chain so that no part of the body touches the floor. This is a highly specialized technique and great care must be used to prevent damage.
Switch (Switchable) – A person who enjoys both the dominant and submissive roles. A switch may be dominant to one person and submissive with another or may be dominant or submissive with the same person at different times.
Top – A dominant.
Topping from the bottom – For a submissive to dictate the precise action in a scene. A term of contempt. Example: “She’s cute and willing, but she’s always topping from the bottom; you will spend most of your time trying to keep her from telling you which whip to use and how to swing it.” See ‘SAM’
TT – Tit torture. The term applies to both males and females.
Vanilla – Not in the scene. A term used to describe ordinary, conventional life both sexual and otherwise. While it can be used in a pejorative sense, it is more often used to distinguish between scene and non-scene activities and people. Example: “I have to be careful in my vanilla life that people don’t find out that I’m a dominant.”

Lust & Licks,

Dd

Several years ago, Scott and I ended up moving to Michigan for his job. Little did I know that the Motor City had some of the kinkiest people I have met to date. Even before we moved to Michigan I had started exploring Bondage and stumbled across Bondage.com. I started spending a lot of time in their chat rooms. My name was “Sex Kitten” how original huh?

Once in Michigan, I discovered that a lot of the people in the IRC channel were from around the area. Now on IRC you use Capital letters to signify if your a Dominant and lower case letters to show your submissive. Well I liked the idea of being dominated and used so I chose a submissive name. Even so, I was constantly approached by men calling me Ma’am and Mistress and asking me to top them.

After a few months a couple of the girls and I decided to hook up and go get pierced. Their online names were MsBehavin and muffy. MsBehavin got her nipple pierced, I got my belly button pierced and muffy just video taped it all. Muffy was an “owned” slave, but she had a bit of a Domme in her. She had a subbie on the side named stef who absolutely worshipped her, but her Dom would have been furious if he knew. Stef and I were good friends, so when they approached me about putting a collar on him so the other domme’s would leave him alone, I said no problem. Again this is all in IRC and honestly I didn’t take it as serious as some.

Stef soon became stef{PD} the {} represented a collar, and the PD was my new Domme name PussyDomme. The Domme name was mainly for show so muffy’s dom didn’t get angry that she was cheating on him. I would make up scenes in chat just for fun and play with stef. As time went by, I actually did start playing with stef a bit more seriously. Stef was getting frustrated always being the other man and ended up asking if I would be his Domme for real.

Now during this time, MsBehavin and I started talking about meeting others from IRC. So I decided to set up a picnic in a nearby park for everyone to meet safely and get to know each other. I scanned through the match maker section of the site and sent out invites to anyone in the near vicinity. Everyone was to bring a dish and we would all get to know each other.

The first one only had about 5 others show up. We had a lot of fun though, took pictures and posted them on the IRC channels web page and planned to have another real soon. The next one we had more people show up, one guy in particular named Robin. Again it was a lot of fun. The people were starting to get to know each other and a bit of flirtatious play started to occur. I ended up tied to trees, to picnic benches, carried around like a doll and had the new toys tested out on me.

By this time we started getting the attention of others in the channel who were not so close. Some friends came down from Boston and other places out of state. Stef who was now my slave came down from quebec and then Robin of course showed up to each meeting. He was fairly quiet and I was pretty sure he was gay. I had stef serving me and worshipping my feet when Robin started to come out of his shell.

Some of the girls were demostrating their toys. MsBehavin who could be very cruel was using a flogger on some of the subbies. Mind you I had stef who was not so much into pain as he was into submission. Robin how ever was a total pain slut. So I started to use the flogger on him. So somewhere I had gone from submissive to Mistress with out even realizing it.

Robin started coming by daily and stef would visit every couple of months from Canada. I can’t complain though, Robin cleaned my house, ran errands for me, brought me tributes and would do anything I asked. He enjoyed pain and I could give it! He was very much into CBT and humiliation. He would make or buy me toys which I always tested on him. Rubber floggers, ball harness’, ball gags, crop and whips.

The best toys though were things you would not expect. No matter how brutal I got with Robin, he never cried out his safe word. I had him put birthday candles in his urethra and light them, he wasn’t allowed orgasms unless I ok’d it and even then he had to save his cum in an ice tray to use again. I would make both of my subbies wear girl panties and on occasion I made robin wear a matching bra and ribbons in his hair.

The pain slut inside of Robin brought out my full evilness. The one time he did use his safe word was when I had MsBehavin slather Ben Gay on his balls. He was not happy about that and not only used his safe word, but he also cried. I had finally broken him. I would tie twine around his balls and make a harness leaving a small amount to come out of his waste band and take him shopping. When he would get a bit too “cocky” or just when I felt like it, I would pull that string and make him speak in falsetto.

Stef was a different story. Although I would spank him on occasion his main pleasure and punishment was more mental than anything. With him, I controlled him with what he was allowed to eat and feed him things that he didn’t like when he got out of line. He hated olives. So when he misbehaved I would feed him green olives in a dog bowl at my feet. He would suffer so trying to get those down for me.

Both Robin and Stef became a part of the family. Scott pretty much watched with amusement all the things I did with them. I never had sex with them although I occasionally allowed stef to lick my pussy as a reward or pamper my feet. Stef was quite the manly man being a hockey player and I really did enjoy making him paint his toenails and have to deal with the comments in the men’s locker room.

Stef would speed when he would come to visit me, so to remind him that he belonged to me and shouldn’t take chances, I would make him wear panties when driving from Quebec to Michigan. Once he got held up at the border and they did a strip search on him. I still laugh at the thought of them finding this man wearing pink frilly panties under his trousers.

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Lust & Licks,
Dd

Hey everyone. I am a Professional Glamour Model here in the UK and out in the United States … I’m a fun loving girl, who enjoys having a good time. I’m friendly, considerate and caring and I don’t look down my nose at people. I do a lot of charity work, and I am the patron of a children’s charity in the West Midlands.

I love going out clubbing and partying with my mates in London, and I like spending quality time at home with my family and close friends.

I enjoy traveling and so far this year I have visited New York, Las Vegas, San Francisco, LA, Miami and Chicago, Spain and Holland!

My ideal partner is someone who is caring and romantic, but he has to be a good listener and he must have a good sense of humor too … I love a man who can make me laugh. I always crack up when I read Scott’s Wives I Have Fucked posts, he is such a bloke!

I don’t like liars and cheats and I can’t stand bully’s as I was a victim of bullying myself at school, and it wasn’t very nice!

Over the last 9 months my modeling career has taken off in a big way, and I have become a very successful Glamour model, particularly in the United States.

While I was out in the states I attended and worked at the MAGIC SHOW in Las Vegas for Hustler Lingerie … I have also done some promotional work for Electric Costumes at the Halloween Show in Chicago in March…and the Eye wear show in NYC

When I was in Chicago, I attended a meeting with playboy, which went extremely well. I tested for Playmate…still waiting to see what they say!
I was invited to dinner with Hugh Hefner at his Playboy mansion in March to meet with him and his girlfriends… I even got to feed Hef’s monkeys, which was a lot of fun lol. I have been back twice…loads of fun!!!

Some more exciting news is that I’ve been offered a contract as the new face for the Ed Hardy Eyewear Line, along with Ludacris … who I met up with for a photo shoot in New York … how exciting is that!

It’s hard to believe that only 9 months ago, I was holding down 2 jobs, as a full time dental nurse and as a part time bar maid at my local pub, just trying to make ends meet … I still can’t believe how much my life has changed in such a short length of time!

All that I can say to anyone reading this … is don’t give up on pursuing your dreams … it’s hard work … but its all worth it in the end …. just believe in yourself and stick with it, and you too could find yourself making your dreams come true

I regularly appear in various publications such as: ZOO, LOADED, FHM, NUTS and ICE magazine and I have also appeared on the front covers of Modified Motors, Fast Cars and Fast Bikes, as well as Playboy UK 3 issues to date, Page 3 of the Daily Sport, Sunday Sport page 3 and front covers.
I have been photographed by some of the best photographers in the industry including: Alan Strutt, Jen Wikholm, Michael Fasani, James Mountford, George Richardson, Jeff Kaines, Stuart Randle, Leslie Turtle and Harvey Butts, my fave Photographer in the USA!!!

I don’t think an explanation is required lol. This is another pic taken at the UCR Botanical Gardens. Risky, huh *gasp*

Dd Says: “Why are hurricanes usually named after women?
Because when they arrive, they’re wet and wild, but when they go, they take your house and car.”

I love to be sexually dominated, and I am married to a very beautiful young woman who abuses my obedience to the maximum. She knows that when I am sexually aroused there is nothing I won’t do for her. She often makes me go a few days without coming, knowing that I will be that much more aroused and submissive.

The other night, I arrived home and found her lying on the couch, wearing a short satin robe. As soon as I saw her I developed an immediate erection, thus becoming a slave to her desires.

She ordered me onto my hands and knees and commanded me to crawl to her side. She then raised her foot to my face and said “Lick my foot slave!” I happily licked her foot as she rubbed it all over my face. She then pushed my face away with her foot and tossed a satin G-string at me saying, “Put on your uniform, and go draw me a bath, slave!” I answered, “Yes, Mistress,” and went to the bathroom to change into the G-string and prepare her bath.

As soon as I finished readying her bath, she entered the bathroom and told me to get on my hands and knees in the tub. I started to remove the G-string, but she told me to leave it on. I got on my hands and knees and she removed her robe to reveal her beautiful naked body. She sat down in the tub in front of me and said, “Stick your head under the water and eat my pussy slave!”

I stuck my head down between her legs and started lapping away. When I came up for a breath, she would count to three and then push my head back into her crotch. When she tired of this she had me wash her entire body. When I finished, she stepped out of the tub, dried herself off, and threw me the wet towel to dry off with. “I know you love to wear that G-string,” she said, “so just keep it on, slave, and go into the bedroom when you’re done drying off.” I finished drying, except for the soggy G-string, and went into the bedroom. My raging hard-on was sticking out the top of the pouch on the G-string.

She walked into the bedroom a few minutes later wearing a red satin camisole, garter, nylons and black patent leather pumps. She came over to the edge of the bed where I was sitting, grabbed my balls through the pouch, and told me to open my mouth. She then stuffed my mouth with a couple pairs of her panties and tied a scarf around my head to form a gag. She bound my wrists behind my back and tied my ankles together to insure I was fairly immobile. As she finished tying me up I wondered what she had in store for me this evening. She usually didn’t tie me up, since I’m always very cooperative.

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Nice towering pic of Dd’s legs.

Dd Says: “I rear-ended a car this morning. So, there we were alongside the road and slowly the other driver got out of his car. You know how sometimes you just get soooo stressed and little things just seem funny? Yeah, well I couldn’t believe it…. he was a DWARF!!! He stormed over to my car, looked up at me, and shouted, ‘I AM NOT HAPPY!!!’
So, I looked down at him and said, ‘Well, then which one are you?’
And then the fight started…”

I have always had a fondness for Dd’s feet. Not really to the point of foot worship per say, but I do give her feet plenty of attention. No matter what position we wind up fucking in, I always find myself holding her feet and/or legs up in some peculiar position that usually results in Dd getting a minor case of leg cramps. Sorry, dear.

Recently, I have been taking a lot of pictures of Dd for Doing My Wife as well as for the swag we’re putting on eBay. And I find that in most of the photo shoots we’re doing, there is something I am focusing on more and more…Dd’s feet. Like I said, I have always had an affection for them, and now it seems others are gaining a liking for them too.
A great deal of the comments we receive on Dd’s footsies come from our wonderful eBay customers. There was a pic I had taken that showcased Dd’s ass with her feet slightly raised and her toes pointed. I must say they were just begging to be cummed upon. Well, I wound up using that particular picture as the gallery photo for a listing and we got a barrage of guys that sent messages stating they really dug that picture. So needless to say, Dd’s feet are now the focal point of the photo’s I put up in the eBay listings lol.

Dd loves to have her feet played with and tickled. In fact, she stated this in her Fling profile and gets inundated with comments from dudes that would be more than happy to oblige.

Here are a few of Dd’s foot related comments she’s received from Fling. I have edited nothing, nor fucked with the spelling. This is Copy Pasta baby:

“Hey this mite sound wierd but i really lv feet! i wasnt
goin to msg u until i red u lv havin ur feet worshiped.
if u fany havin a rly intense foot massage let me no.”

“Baby i would love to worship your sexy feet and toes
for hours and days…….lol, muah~ cam?”

“Hi gorgeous.. you have really beautiful feet id love to
have them on my face and cock!”

“Just wanted to say hello! I can see why you like
having your feet worshiped..they are very nice! How
are you?
When can I suck ur toes?”

Stay tuned, we’ll be working on a ‘Best Of’ Fling comment post that’ll be sure to please. There are some classics in the making.

I came across (not literally) this picture from Magical Feet and thought it was hot. Dd and I are going to do more foot play pictures and I think I’ll try to emulate the Magical Feet picture too, although Dd’s toenail polish color may vary lol. Once I get a good shot like that I’ll post it. I guess if I can’t get the moneyshot just right, I can open a tube of Pillsbury Cinnamon Rolls or a box of Toaster Strudel and jack the yummy frosting packet to use for surrogate jizz. Then it can be licked off for double the fun! I bet you’re thinkin’ I have a real exiting life, huh?

Anywho, I’ll wrap this up with a few more cool foot pics. I sense I’ll be spending a lot on refrigerated cinnamon rolls in the near future. Go Hannaford!

I have been an avid fan of keeping my pussy hair free. When I look at girls on the net, and trust me I look a lot I always prefer the girls with little to no hair down there. Personally speaking, when I am shaved I feel clean and sexy. Not to mention for me at least it makes my pussy and clit far more sensitive than when I have pubic hair.

Now when I was first approached with the idea of shaving, yes it was by Scott. I was a bit leary. Like a lot of woman out there, I wondered why he wanted me to look like I hadn’t hit puberty yet. I finally gave in. It is only hair after all and would grow back in no time. Besides who other than Scott was going to see it. Scott of course wanted the honors of doing the grooming himself so with a bowl of water, a can of shave cream and a nice fresh razor I laid back on the bed and spread my legs wide.

I was Scared! Sharp things down there tend to make people nervous. He was very careful, and double checked his work often. I started to relax enjoying his fingers slipping across my newly smooth lips. I found myself getting quite aroused. I still wasn’t sure about the look but I already loved the feeling. Scott was also enjoying it. Once he finished and cleaned me up, he had to give it the ultimate test. A long and thorough pussy licking!

After a bit of itching, my sleek sexy honey pot got use to shaving and I started doing it regularly with my other shower maintenance routines. I loved the sensitivity of it as well as the clean and fresh feeling. Scott seemed to love it just as much since he was constantly burying his face between his legs. 15 years later I am still shaving. Sometimes I think about getting waxed but I am too much of a chicken.

Shaving is not just for women. Men can shave too. Actually I prefer a nicely trimmed area than a full on bald cock. Shaved balls though are good. It makes licking, sucking and kissing down there a lot more pleasurable for me, not to mention I don’t have to constantly pluck hair from my mouth. Some other reasons for men to consider trimming or shaving their genitals:

Hygiene. Since it isn’t often unless we live on a nudist resort that we can let it all hang out. Our genitals are tucked away behind layers of clothing which traps heat, sweat and bacteria which cause odors. Shaving or trimming makes it easier to keep the area clean and smelling sweet. This encourages her to dive between your legs with out hesitation.

Your hard on will look bigger. Yep, I knew that would get your attention. Once you remove all or at least most of the hair down there, your man hood will look bigger. Those wild stray hairs hide a good bit of cock. So strip it off and show her your extra length of shaft! She will want to explore the newly discovered territory.

Maintenance. A woman likes to see a man who takes care of himself, that includes down below. When your getting ready for a date and checking your hair in the mirror, don’t forget to look down and check that area out as well. A trimmed trunk shows that you care enough about her to make sure everything is presentable for her. Would you enjoy two kiwis in your mouth?

Its Fun. Let her do the grooming. I know, the sharp instruments is sort a scary. Think of it this way its no different than putting your cock between her sharp teeth. If you trust her to suck you, then shavings no thing. Besides think of the pleasure you will get as she slowly lathers your cock and balls. She will need to keep it hard to be able to get a nice smooth shave!

So have I convinced you to trim or shave your cock and balls?

If so let me give you a few quick tricks to make it easier to do.

1. Use a very good shave gel, don’t just use soap. You will need a nice think lather. Also spend an extra few bucks on shaving oil.
2. Use a good razor. Avoid the disposable razors. Personally I use the Mach 3 Turbo by Gillette. Use scissors or clippers to trim the hair down first.
3. Soak in a warm tub or shower for at least ten minutes before you start shaving. It soften the skin and relax hair follicles. Also it is not wise to shave first thing in the morning since you retain a lot of water over night so you nick easier.
4. Exfoliate. Men totally underestimate exfoliation. Get rid of the dead skin cells so you can get a closer and smoother shave.
5. When you first start go in the same direction as the hair. Hold the skin taut and then go against the hair. Try not to go over the same spot too much or it will cause irritation and redness.
6. Rinse the razor between strokes.
7. Rinse and Clean pubic area, pat dry with a towel.
8. Use a unscented moisturizing lotion after shaving.
9. Make sure and keep up on shaving. The more you do it, the less irritation.

So instead of wasting lots of money on the penis enlargement pills and gadgets, save a few bucks and add more length to your cock for under $10

Lust & Licks,

Dd

A pic I took the other night of Dd’s sexy legs.

Dd Says: “How do you get a sweet 80-year-old lady to say the F word?
Get another sweet little 80-year-old lady to yell BINGO!”

Swinging Defined
“Engagement in sexual activity with someone other than one’s spouse or primary partner, with the full knowledge and consent of that spouse/primary partner” (Friend, Pearlmutter, McGinney 1989), and “recreational social-sexual sharing among consenting adults” (McGinney 1980). In practical terms, this translates into married couples, and couples in committed and casual relationships, engaging in social-sexual activity with other couples outside of their relationship. It is very different from cheating, however, because everyone involved are mutual participants, free of guilt, dishonesty and deceit. In other words, a couple in a relationship has openly discussed and agreed that such social-sexual interactions with others is ok.

Swinging activities may include (but are not limited to):
Soft swinging: having sexual intercourse with a partner while two or more other people perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.
Soft swap: having oral sex with someone other than one’s partner. Often a type of swinging that new couples choose before eventually trying full swap, although many couples stay “soft swap” for personal or safety related reasons.
Full swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one’s partner. Although this is the commonly understood definition of swinging, it is not necessarily the most common type.
Group sex: An all-inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity.

Does swinging have an adverse effect on long term relationships?
Many swingers will tell you that quite the opposite is true. This is certainly supported by the large number of very happily married couples one meets on the scene.
However, I have also met some very unhappy ones whose relationships break up quickly. The real answer seems to be that a swinging lifestyle can actually strengthen a truly loving relationship but can also damage relationships where either one or both partners have not been open in expressing their feelings about getting into swinging or in not thinking it through properly. Sadly, the level of trust needed to make it work is probably higher than that which most relationships are built upon The first step should be taken only when both partners are ready and feel highly confident with one another.

Hot Wife (Otherwise known as Dd. See how much I love you honey!)
The term hot wife refers to a married woman who has sex with men other than her spouse, and/or women with the husband’s consent. In most cases the husband takes a vicarious pleasure in watching the pleasure of his wife and the man or men, or enjoys watching, hearing, or knowing about his wife’s adventures. Husbands may also take part by engaging in threesomes, or arranging dates for their wives. And often, if not an active participant, the husband take photos and/or video of his wife’s sexual encounter. Also in many cases the husband/wife enjoy private sexual relations afterward.
One variant of the hot wife phenomenon is when two men (one generally the husband and the other perhaps a close friend) take turns pleasuring his wife, each immediately taking over from the other as soon as his orgasm is reached. In effect one man is recovering while the other is active, but the woman effectively has continuous intercourse. In this way, particularly if the woman experiences multiple orgasms, this game can effectively provide her with a very extended sexual act that she could not experience in any other way.

Polyamory
Polyamory is the desire, practice or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with full knowledge and consent by everyone involved. Poly lifestyles vary, with some being open relationships and others being polyfidelitous.
Many people involved in polyamory are not swingers. Some are openly critical of swingers, contrasting their committed relationships with the recreational sex that, in their view, swingers practice. Others are not critical of swingers but simply do not regard themselves as belonging to the same group.

Cuckolding
A distinct threesome subculture is cuckolding. Cuckolding is a subgenre where open relationship and threesomes meet. In a cuckold experience one partner has sex with another person outside of their primary relationship for a limited number of times and the person who engages in the experience generally shares that experience with their partner after the encounter has ended.
Generally cuckolding differs from an open relationship as it does not involve an ongoing emotional relationship that is commonly found in open relationship nor is it an ongoing relationship that is commonly found in an open relationship. Though the nonparticipating partner is not involved in the sexual act they may be involved in preparation and selection of the third person. Cuckolding is not always done for sexual humiliation as it may be done to allow sexual exploration, the opportunity to live out a fantasy, fulfill a desire, or sexual fulfillment that cannot usually be obtained through the normal boundaries of a relationship. In essence cuckolding seeks to ‘fill the gap’ that is left by other threesome or group sex activities.

Interested in more info on swinging? Ready to find a couple to swing with? Or do you want to find a single guy or girl to do your wife? Check out the links below!

International Swingers Day – Information about events and clubs worldwide.
Fling – How could I not include Fling in this list. It is Dd’s favorite place to find boyfriends. Fear not, if you miss this link, there are about sixty thousand others spread throughout Doing My Wife lol.
Clubs & Paties.com – This site is a listing of swingers clubs and parties all over the world. Also, a nice section on swinging etiquette.
Swinging on Wikipedia – Enough said.
Trips 4 Swingers – Site offering lifestyle holidays and vacations.
xPeeps – Social MySpace kind of site tailored to adults. Dd likes to hang out here too. This is a good site to netwok with adult industry professionals like me lol.
Swingfest 2009 – The world’s largets swingers party. If nothing else, check out this link. There is a TON of info here!
Swingercast – Podcasts and plenty of info.

Have fun and play safe!

Kimberly Nicole Rathkamp, or Kayden Kross as she’s better known, was born and raised in Sacramento, California. She has described herself in high school as “the book nerd”. She began stripping at the age of eighteen at Rick’s Showgirls in Rancho Cordova, California to earn extra money to purchase a pony that was going to be slaughtered. She was later contacted by an agent and started modeling in adult magazines.

Kayden was a senior at California State University, Sacramento when she signed an exclusive performing contract with Vivid Video in November 2006. Her movies with Vivid included Kayden’s First Time, Hard Time and Be Here Now. Unhappy with the company, she became a free-agent one year later when she did not renew her contract. After one month of being a free-agent, she signed an exclusive contract with Adam & Eve.

Kayden Kross has appeared in several episodes of The Block, a reality snowboarding show that aired on G4TV, in which the Vivid Girls went to The Block hotel for a photo shoot. She also appeared on the Gene Simmons’ reality show, Family Jewels. She was named Penthouse Pet of the Month for September 2008.

Talk about a bad girl! This excerpt is from Genesis Magazine. September 18, 2008.

Adam & Eve contract performer, Kayden Kross is facing felony charges in a mortgage scam involving investments the 23-year-old- XXX star made on two foreclosed homes. The charges Kross faces include grand theft (Sec. 487(a) of the California Penal Code) and violations of the Civil Code involving contracts for purchases of home equity (Sec. 1695.3). Kross is scheduled to be arraigned at the Downtown Sacramento Courthouse on October 14 at 10:30am.

The story as, as reported on Scottfayner.com, says that following an FBI investigation, the charges were filed with the Sacramento Superior Court August 6. Upon returning to Los Angeles after a promotional trip to New Zealand, Kross was arrested at LAX.

A source for Scottfayner.com offered alleged details relating to the case and charges, and this report appears on the Scottfayner.com adult information website:

A disabled Veteran and his wife, along with their four children, lived in a house they could no longer afford. So the house went into foreclosure.

Kayden Kross knows a mortgage broker, who in April of 2006 tells her of a family that needs help and would she like to do a foreclosure bailout on the house to both buy property and help out a family in need? Kayden says yes.

So now Kayden owns the house, and the family pays her rent.

Meanwhile, Kayden buys another house the same way, and takes a $30,000 loan on each house’s equity (at 125% interest) plus another $35,000 each to go into escrow accounts. In total, Kayden borrowed $130,000 against her new houses.

Then she vanished into thin air. The mortgage payments on the houses stopped being paid, and the family was kicked out. Meanwhile, Kayden went and sold the titles for the two houses for $10,000 a piece.

She now had $150,000 that didn’t really belong to her.

Kayden Kross spoke with the source for Scottfayner.com about the charges. “Yes, these are the allegations against me,” said Kross. “But there is no proof of it, and the court will agree. I’ve done nothing wrong. I was young and got caught up with a shitty mortgage lender. I didn’t do anything to that family, we were all pulled in to a fraudulent scam.”

Kross’ attorney Jon-Paul Valcarenghi, of the Sacramento firm of Rothschild Wishek & Sands, was quoted on AVN.com in relation to the case.
“We’re really at the initial stages of the case, so a lot of the details are unknown,” said Valcarenghi. “What I can tell you is that Miss Kross was 20 years old and financially inexperienced when she became the victim of two mortgage professionals that she naively trusted. At least one other young woman was similarly victimized, and we intend to investigate these allegations and vigorously defend Miss Kross.”

Pressed to define the term “mortgage professionals” and to describe how Kross was a “victim,” the lawyer chose not to offer more details. “Here’s why,” said Valcarenghi. “Only because of my limit on my ability to comment because of professional rules, but also because Miss Kross has not been arraigned in court. There has not even been a court appearance yet. I have not even seen the charging document from the court file, so I’m sorry that I can’t provide more details.”

It is reported that, at the time of her arraignment, Kross’ counsel will move to be tried separately from others being charged in the mortgage scam.

If your interested in viewing the case details, you can see them HERE.

Dd chillin’ at Disneyland.

Dd Says: “Did you hear about the Chinese couple that had a blonde baby?
They named him ‘Sum Ting Wong’.”

So, you met this great person on a site like Fling or Swing Lifestyle and now you want to meet in person. This is great, but remember not everyone behind the monitor is what they say they are. No matter if your a man, woman or even a couple, you still need to follow a few steps to make sure that all involved are safe.

Meeting people offline is not nearly as taboo as it once was. Actually these days it is one of the main ways people meet. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take precautions. Don’t feel that being safe may stop the spontaneity of the meeting, or that the other person won’t want to meet you because you have a few rules in place. If the person has a problem with you setting up a few safety procedures then they obviously are not someone you want to meet.

Don’t let anyone pressure you into meeting if you are not ready. You have control of when, who and what you do. If someone keeps pressuring to meet when you are not comfortable, then they have no respect for you. You probably don’t want this type of person in your life anyhow.

Before you even arrange to meet someone offline you should make sure you have learned as much as you can about them. Talk to them for a while, ask questions, find out about past meetings they have had. Make sure you both share the same ideas on what your looking for and try to talk on the phone.If you are uncomfortable with them having your number you can always block your phone number using *69.

You should follow these few steps when planning your first meeting:

1. Always make sure the first meeting is in a well lit public and neutral place.
2. Bring a friend with you if possible.
3. Be alert. Watch body language and actions.
4. Make sure a friend or family member knows where you are going and who you are going with. Also what time you are expected back.
5. Leave the person you are meeting phone number and address, along with screen name with your friends, family as well as somewhere in your house/apartment that someone can easily find it.
6. Leave yourself an “out”. This means making sure that you have the means to leave if and when you feel it is necessary.
7. If you are going to another location, make sure that you drive your own car and call your friends and let them know as well.
8. Try and refrain from drinking alcohol or doing any recreational drugs. This will keep your senses sharp and let you pick up on anything wrong.
9. Never leave your personal belongings or drink unattended.
10. Arrange for a safe call or two…even for the second and third meeting. This means arranging for a someone to call you or for you to call someone at a prearranged time. There should be a key phrase or two that only the two of you know. One phrase should mean you are alright and the other should mean you are in trouble and need help.
11. Refrain from sexual play if possible. If you do play make sure you have protection. Do not rely on the other person to bring it even if they say they will.
12. If there is the slightest, most minute doubt in your mind, if the tiniest voice is signaling an alarm, LISTEN TO IT!

I have met several people offline and have always followed these basic rules. I have made some great friends from my offline meetings. I even took things a step farther by hosting picnics to allow people to meet safely and get to know each other. I would make sure people talked and got to know each other and that everything was safe and fun.

Don’t offer too much information. It isn’t that hard to track a person down if they know enough about them. Always keep yourself safe and don’t share too much about yourself or your family. I had a good scare one time when I was talking to a gentleman on an adult site. We had been talking for quite sometime and I just babbles away with out giving it much thought.

We ended up talking one night and he started telling me details that I didn’t think I had told him. He mentioned my birds singing and how close a certain store was to where I lived. I began to get a bit nervous. He informed me he had my phone number and knew where I lived. I demanded that he tell me the last 4 digits of my number. He was able to do it.

I of course went into total panic mode. Called my friends crying, was ready to change my phone number and call the police for an extra patrol around my neighborhood. Then I got a phone call from a girlfriend of mine. She was also on the site and she had been emailing the same person. She had taken it a step farther and went to his house. When she saw he was emailing me she decided to have a little fun and fed him information to scare me. It worked. I was never able to trust her again and never spoke to the man again for being willing to fuck with me like that.

You really don’t realize how much information you offer during general chit chat. You can be safe and still enjoy the date. People with good intentions will respect a person that takes care of themselves and is safe.

If things go well, this will be the first of many wonderful dates to come!

Lust & Licks,

Dd

This lovely pic was taken the other night while shooting for our eBay auctions.

Dd Says: “During lunch breaks in Carlsbad, New Mexico, no couple should engage in a sexual act while parked in their vehicle, unless their car has curtains.”